Monthly Archives: March 2012

That Elusive Sleep

The poor little man has been having some tummy troubles. He spent most of yesterday crying and spitting up. When he did manage to fall asleep, he would wake up a couple of minutes later crying in pain.

I can't believe he is already 5 weeks old

My other little man has been waking up nightly, crying for no apparent reason. Then he would go back to sleep only to wake up at the crack of dawn. I keep telling myself ” its just a phase….”

Unlike Ally, he takes a long time to fall asleep and seems to only need a quick cat nap to recharge his batteries.

I’m hoping that we’ll all get more uninterrupted sleep soon!

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Co-sleeping, The Kids Version

Ever since Max turned 1, Ally and him have shared a room. We bought Ally a trundle bed once she moved out of the cot and we placed the cot and her bed adjacent to each other. Even at that young age, Max loved Ally’s company. Soon the little monkey found that he could climb out of his cot. Images of cracked skulls and broken collar bones immediately filled my head so I bought a net to put over his crib. Needless to say he HATED it and cried each time we put him to bed. Matt suggested letting the two kids share a bed and that’s what they have been doing ever since.

Until recently, both of them shared Ally’s single mattress but they’re starting to find it quite a squeeze so we pulled out the trundle, propped up the legs and turned it into a queen size bed. The kids are in 7th heaven, they have a lot more space to sleep play about .

Eventually Luke and Max will share a room and Ally will move into her own room. But while they are still young, we’re going to keep all 3 in the same room. It definitely strengthens the bond between them and they have so much fun, sharing little games/ secrets before bedtime.

Ally 3 monkeys squeezing onto my hospital bed the day Luke was born

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A Month of Baby Goodness

I can’t believe it’s been a month since Luke’s arrival. Life with 3 is definitely 3 times the effort, 3 times the work but more than 3 times the fun, laughter and love.

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I LOVE those cheeks!

A Week Old

Hanging out with Big Sister

3 Weeks old and filling up nicely

He looks so much like Max, except he has Ally's eyes

Our darling Luke

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It’s Getting Easier…. Or So I Thought

I thought I had this 3 children thing down pat, yesterday I managed to get all 3 kids showered and dressed by 9am and we made a trip into town to pick up some things.

We bought what I needed and I even managed to feed the kids and myself at the food court, packed them up into the car and home we went, all under 2 hours.

The rest of the day went rather smoothly, took the kids grocery shopping in the evening and cooked their dinner. So far , so good.

THEN, bedtime came. Luke was starting to get fussy, he usually does the hour or so before bedtime. I had my hands full carrying him while trying to get the older two settled for bed. Anyway I managed to brush their teeth and get them changed, Ally fell asleep very easily, Max was a different story. He tossed and turn and then started to disturb Ally. Luke in the meantime was fussing on and off, the minute he calmed down, I would put him back in his crib only for him to cry again 10 minutes later. When he finally fell into deep sleep, Max woke him up.

I moved Luke to the other room and went to settle him back to sleep, just when Luke fell asleep once again, Max started crying. Put Luke down, went over to check on Max who wanted me to be with him. I felt sorry for Max so I stayed with him and he started to drift off to sleep. Luke decided to wake up for a feed so I had to go and feed him and when Max saw me leaving his bed, he started crying AGAIN.

This went on for awhile till Max finally fell asleep out of pure exhaustion, just as I was about to fall asleep, Luke woke up for another feed. Did I forget to mention that Luke is going through a growth spurt?

Life with 3 kids is never dull, some days everything works like clockwork, other days all well intended plans fall apart. That’s life for you!

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One of those days where everything was perfect

 

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The Woman Who Makes Moms Like Me Feel Bad

Who am I referring to? This woman is none other than Gina Ford. When Ally was born and having tons of sleep issues, I bought one of Gina’s Ford’s books in the hope that it would provide me a solution. I remember reading it and obviously as a new parent, took it as the gospel truth. A daily routine did help Ally, she thrived on it, but there was no way we could carry out Gina’s Ford’s strict routine. So I devised something similar that suited our lifestyles. It was much easier cos Ally was bottle fed from Day 1.

When Max came along, I now had two kids under 3 to look after. Max was fed on demand and would snack instead of taking a full feed. From the early days you could tell that he wasn’t going to be a Gina Ford baby, I could not force him to drink anymore than he wanted which resulted in many little feeds during the day. I remember taking out the same book, reading it and then throwing it at the wall as it just seemed completely ridiculous. I had no heart to let my son “cry-down” as advised in the book. After a month, Max made his own routine , his feeds got more regular, his sleep patterns more obvious. Bliss! And I didn’t have to subject him to crying it out on his own.

Luke is now nearly 3 weeks old, he is my biggest baby and feeds well during the day. Towards evening and later at night he can start to get a bit fussy . This is when his tummy seems to start acting up as well. Obviously I haven’t learned my lesson cos once more that dreaded book was whipped out. I wanted to know if there was a way I could help him sleep for longer stretches during the night. The more I read the book, the more absurd it all seemed, especially with 2 older children to care for. Unless I clone myself, there was no way I could put Luke on any sort of routine.

Ms Ford has her points, yes children need a routine, it helps them feel settled since they know exactly what’s going to happen next. They also need a good night’s sleep, as do the parents! But her methods just do not work for my family, and I honestly feel they are far too rigid for babies who are totally breastfed. At times baby might just be thirsty and so he doesn’t take a full feed, then what? Do you count that as a feed? Do you try to ” force” him to drink more?

I’ve decided to put away Ms Ford’s book forever, it serves no purpose except to make me long for a ” text-book” baby instead of appreciating the unique individual that I have. In the meantime, fans of Ms Ford, please don’t come after me with pitch forks. I am sleep deprived and hormonal, you don’t want to mess with me.

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Can You Spoil A Newborn?

All my babies were carried A LOT in the early days. Ally had her medical issues and no one had the heart to leave her to cry. I was still working during that time and poor Grandma had to carry Ally for at least 6-8 hours a day till her wrist ache. But then nothing else could comfort her and the poor child was in so much pain from her reflux.

When Max came along I fed him on demand during the early days. When he cried I picked him up, he slept in a crib next to our bed and at times co-slept with us. Well meaning friends and relatives used to say ” Don’t keep carrying him, you’ll spoil him”

When you think about it, a baby has been in the safe secure womb for the last 9 months or so, suddenly they are thrust into this strange world and expected to be independent little people. I always say it’s the smart ones that cry and demand for their parent’s attention. They crave what they are familiar with, the smells and sounds of their parents. I honestly don’t believe you can spoil a newborn, their needs and wants are the same. Right now with Luke, he’s fed on demand as well and carried each time he cries. Sure it’s tiring especially with two older children but the poor little guy is only 2 weeks old. I don’t have the heart to let him cry till he runs out of tears. The only exception is when I’m driving, if I know he’s hungry and we’re far from home, I usually pull over somewhere safe to feed him first. If not he just has to wait till we get home.

While I say it’s not possible to spoil a newborn, it is possible to over indulge a baby. Between 9 months to a year, we start to set limits for the children. At nap/ bedtimes, they are placed in their cots, sleepy but not asleep. Slowly they learn to fall asleep on their own. With Ally we used to carry her till she fell asleep and it was exhausting for all of us. Finally we managed to teach her to fall asleep on her own. Second time round we were a little wiser and started the routine earlier. Max was also a more easy going chap with no medical issues which made things simpler.

To everyone who says I’m spoiling my baby by carrying him to much and responding to his every need, I just want to say, thanks for your advice but I’m going to do it my way, at least for the next 9 months. Luke is our last baby and while I can still comfort him with a cuddle, hug or kiss, I’m going to savor that opportunity and do so.

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Day By Day

We are all still adjusting, some days are better than others. Right now I’m down with a cold and it seems Ally is headed the same way. Max has been testing everyone’s patience and at times it’s hard to be patient with him. But he does have his sweet moments and I try to spend some time with him after we drop Ally off at school. Today we went for pancakes and he really enjoyed the attention.

I haven’t had time to take many photos, free time is either spent with the older two, or catching up on sleep. My sewing machine is gathering dust and I don’t even know when I’ll get a chance to sew something simple. Thanks to Matt we’ve managed to keep our life pretty routine. He’s all hands on deck the minute he steps through the door and puts up with the occasional outburst from his hormonal wife.  I’m just taking things day by day, as Matt always says, no use worrying about things beyond our control. In the meantime, a picture of my two favourite boys.

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