Daily Archives: September 20, 2010

Always Bring A Plastic Bag!

I’ve had a very interesting and eventful afternoon. It started out innocently enough, Ally complained of a tummy ache before we had to leave for her class. Took her to the bathroom with no success, thinking it was a false alarm, I dressed the children and got ready to leave.

When we got into the cab, I noticed Ally was unusually quiet. She seemed very uncomfortable so I offered her some water. Max was in the baby carrier and pointing to the scenery outside. When I glanced over at Ally, she had buried her head in her toy and was trying to sleep. It was a very odd behavior for her, especially since she had just woken up from her nap. Anyway, I quickly fished out a plastic bag that I had and told her if she felt sick, to use the bag.

Less than a minute later, she bends over and vomits into the bag, part of it spilled out but thankfully, most of it went into the bag. 30 seconds later, a second wave hits her, this time, more violent than the first. Everything is coming out from everywhere, even her nose. The poor girl starts to cry and the whole front of her shirt is covered. In the meantime, Max has spotted the mess and is attempting to touch it with his hands! I grab the packet of wipes out of my bag and try to clean her the best I can, miraculously, none of it has stained the taxi. To my horror, I realise that I had just taken out her spare clothes, Max’s as well! There was no way she could wear her shirt so I stripped her with one hand and took out my nursing shawl to cover her body.

In the meantime, the plastic bag can’t contain the mess, I found an old poncho in my bag, opened it up and wrapped everything in it, hoping that nothing spills.

We alighted at Liat towers and I quickly ushered her into Zara to buy her a shirt. The security guard gave us a long hard look, I’m sure we were quite a sight. Ally was half naked with my nursing shawl around her, I was trying not to throw up cos I got so car sick moving around in the taxi trying to clean her.

I saw the first sales assistant and asked her to please find a shirt for Ally, anything plain and under $20. She said to me ” Hello Kitty?” and I answered, ” No, no Hello Kitty please, just plain.” We found a sweet blouse and quickly paid for it. By this time, my back was aching and head was spinning so we headed to Wendy’s next door for a drink. Lesson for the day, always bring a plastic bag and spare clothes!


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Patience Is A Virtue

Having two toddlers is a crazy, fun, noisy experience that brings along unexpected surprises. It’s also been the most challenging, demanding and tiring phase that I’ve experienced.

The other day I was speaking to a friend who casually mentioned that her son who’s 6, had asked his dad to come along and watch his after school sport. His dad’s reply, ” I can’t today, I’m busy.”  Before judging the actions of this parent, I thought to myself, how many times have I said the same thing to the children. ” I can’t do this now, Mama is busy”. Sometimes I’m in the midst of preparing their meals, other times I really just need those few moments to myself.

I’m not saying that we need to drop everything and attend to the kids all the time. I personally believe that it is very important for them to learn to entertain themselves when I can’t. But after a bad night’s sleep, it is so easy to brush the children away just because I’m physically or mentally exhausted.

I struggle daily with my lack of patience, I can feel myself losing it, especially with poor Ally since she’s can vocalise her thoughts and feelings. I’ve had a terrible morning with the children, both were whiny and grumpy and I was struggling to get lunch ready on time. Now that they are both down for their naps, my mind is a lot calmer and the guilt is beginning to seep in.

I marvel at the moms who seem to have endless patience, the moms who don’t yell at their kids. I’m praying that after we’ve all had a nap, the rest of the day will get better.

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Teaching Your Child To Hold A Pencil

As much as Ally’s gross motor skills are advanced, her finer motor skills, especially pencil holding, are quite weak. I’ve bought tracing books, coloring books, painting books…. anything to get her interest. She shows in interest in tracing letters, scribbles 3 lines in her coloring books but seems to love her paint with water books.

For the longest time we have struggled with teaching her how to hold her pencil properly. She simply refuses to change her grip. Part of her problem was the way she held her pencil, it was so awkward that it didn’t allow her much contact with the paper. Finally I found a solution, thanks to this fantastic explanation.  I tried it and instantly her pencil grip improved tremendously.

We’re going to try coloring later on and see if she shows a bit more interest now that she can actually hold the pencils properly!


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