Monthly Archives: February 2010

Our Saturday, told in pictures

Its a good day if only one child has a fall/ scrape. Max lost his hold and fell onto our rough carpet

Hanging out with Neesha

"if I can't see her, she can't see me"

On our way out for dinner

Max taking a nap before dinner

Sharing a slice of bread

Max's table manners isn't the best

Ally's is slightly better

Ally the photographer

Oops, she was holding her "camera" the wrong way round

That’s all folks! Have a great weekend

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Separation Anxiety and Co-sleeping

Max is now 8 months old and has started to develop some separation anxiety.  All babies will have separation anxiety between the ages of six to eighteen months, it is a normal healthy development. Ally had a severe stranger and separation anxiety, she would burst into tears if a stranger even looked at her. This made going out a bit embarrassing and it lasted for over a year. I was told that I had spoiled her, I cuddled her too much, carried her too often. Now, I know better. Nothing I did made her clingy, it was just part of her normal development. If you see her now, she’s one of the most sociable talkative toddlers around.

Max on the other hand only seems to get anxious at bedtimes. He used to fuss a little and settle down to sleep on his own. Now he starts his “don’t leave me” cry the minute I pull up the cot rails. Usually it doesn’t last more than three minutes but some days he gets quite hysterical and I have to go in and comfort him. I don’t let him cry for more than five-minutes and if he starts sounding really upset, I go straight in. There isn’t any hard and fast rule about it, more of an instinct. It gets very tiring and stressful when your baby only wants YOU.  But take heart that it’s just a phase that would eventually pass.

With Ally we let her co-sleep with us for about nine months. It was the only way that anyone could get any sleep. Lots of people didn’t agree with what we did but it worked for our family. Letting her cry it out seemed cruel, waking up numerous times at night was affecting both her and myself. Many people told us ” it’ll become a habit and she won’t want to sleep on her own.” Slowly and patiently we transitioned her back into her own bed and today, she’ll happily climb into her big girl bed and fall asleep independently. If the situation worsens with Max, we’ll likely to co-sleep with him as well. The only time I would be cautious about co-sleeping is with a newborn. I never trusted myself to not roll over or cover my babies so they either slept beside our bed in a pack and play or in a separate little sleeper placed on our bed.

Max in a sleeper unit, 10 days old and looking a bit jaundiced

If you are thinking of giving co-sleeping a try, here are some guidelines to keeping your child safe.

  • make sure sheets are fitted and cannot be pulled loose
  • check to make sure there are no gaps between mattress and wall/furniture where baby can get stuck
  • an infant should be placed between mother and a guard rail/wall,not between 2 adults
  • do not sleep with your baby if you have been drinking alcohol
  • remove all pillows and blankets when sleeping with infants
  • never leave baby unattended on an adult bed

The list is by no means exhaustive, to be really safe, consider using an arms reach co-sleeper. We borrowed one from our friend when Max came along and it was a life saver. Baby is right by your side, yet safe in his own little crib. The side drops down so it makes it easy to reassure baby and not disturb your own sleep too much.

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Then and now

Its amazing how fast the kids grow up, just take a look at these pictures!

Sometimes I wish time would just freeze for a moment, I miss holding my newborn babies in my arms and smelling that baby scent.

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Roseola

Yup, Max has got the dreaded virus Roseola. He started breaking out in spots yesterday and today his face, arms and trunk are covered. *haven’t had the chance to take a picture of his spots yet*

Signs and symptoms of Rosela

  • High fever
  • child may be fussy or irritable
  • swollen lymph nodes in the neck
  • poor appetite

The rash usually appears after the fever breaks and can spread to their arms, legs, neck, face and trunk.

Ally had the same virus when she was slightly younger than Max. Hers was more severe and worrying since her temperature hit 40° C at one point. The most scary thing about Roseola is the high temperature that just suddenly hits. Since the virus most commonly affects children under the age of 2, you start to worry that they’ll develop febrile seizures (fits).

Thank goodness the worst is over and most children do not get a second attack of the virus. Now I’m just hoping that Max’s appetite will slowly pick up.

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Things toddlers say

Toddlers have a knack for speaking their minds at the most inappropriate times.  Yesterday Ally followed me into the fitting room and this was the conversation that followed.

” Mama, what are you doing mama?

“I’m trying on a skirt darling”

” Mama, Ally is also wearing a skirt”

“yes you are”

“Mama, you are wearing blue panties!”

At this point in time I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die of embarassement.

I pretended to ignore her last comment and she started having a conversation with herself.

“Ally is wearing white panties” * lifts skirt up to check*

“Mama is wearing blue panties! Baby Max doesn’t wear panties, he wears pampers!”

When I walked out of the fitting room the sales staff were all smiling at me, yes, me and blue panties.

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Days like this

Days like this I really want to climb back into bed and pull the covers over my head.

Days like this I want to yell and scream like the kids but that would accomplish nothing.

Days like this I wish I had more than one me, so that at least one of me could take a break.

Days like this I wonder how I would cope till the kid’s naptime.

Days like this I yearn for my single carefree days.

Days like this I wonder if the kids had gotten up on the wrong side of the bed or if its just me.

Days like this I take a deep breath, pick myself up again and start over.

Because I know days like this are all part and parcel of parenthood and a smile or a hug from one of the children always helps me forget about days like this.

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Dealng with sick kids

Ally has just gotten over her cold and now its Max’s turn to fall ill. There isn’t much I can do for him, his body has to fight the virus on its own but we try to relief his symptoms as much as we can.

In her first year, Ally often fell ill, she would catch a cold every other month and the highlight of her first year was spending Christmas at home with me cos we both contracted Hand Foot and Mouth disease (HFMD). Over time I’ve built up quite a few essential items to keep handy at home and I would like to share these with you.

* Please note that you should never attempt to self medicate your children, always seek a doctor’s advice before administering any medication.

Panadol- I always keep a bottle of Panadol on stand by for low grade fevers. The dosage can often be found on the side of the bottle according to the child’s age.

Fever Patches- Always helpful for low grade fevers as well.

Ibuofen- Given by the pediatrician, handy for high fevers above 39 degrees celcius.  Especially useful when the children contracted viral fever or fake measles. Their temperatures tend to spike extremely high and alternating panadol and Ibuofen was the only thing that kept their temperatures down.

Pedialyte- I keep these in the freezer and used them when Ally has severe diarrhea / vomiting. Dehydration is extremely dangerous for young children and Pedialyte helps to rehydrate them. At room temperature it can be quite yucky to drink cos of the slight salty taste, one way is to freeze them like ice lollies, the other trick is to mix it with a little bit of Ribena.

Ice pack/ teether –  Children are often falling down and an ice pack is always handy for bruises or bumps. A frozen teether is useful for times when they fall and split their lip, get the child to suck on the frozen teether to help soothe the pain and stop the bleeding.

Thermometer- it’s always good to know if your child is running a low-grade fever or something more serious.  Sometimes a low-grade fever is just a sign that the body is trying to fight an infection and medication might not always be necessary.

Number of your child’s doctor- Always have it in a prominent place so that in an event of an emergency, you don’t have to go hunting for it.

The most important thing when dealing with a sick child is to remain calm. I know it’s easier said then done especially when your child is crying inconsolably.  But children pick up on our emotions very quickly and you won’t want your child to panic as well.

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